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How to give up sins (for muslims)

How to give up sins (for muslims)

How to give up sins (for muslims)

By: Uzman Muhajir

As human beings we all possess a sinful nature. But as a Muslim we have to strive to step away from our nature by walking in the light of Islam. If we are not careful to resist ourselves from sin, it will weaken our souls and separate us from our Almighty Allah. On the necessity of self control, Allah says:

And as for him who fears to stand in the presence of his lord forbids his own soul from its whims and caprices, then surely paradise is his abode”.

Consider these seven ways to control your sinful nature:

1. Know your enemy:

The most important strategy in warfare is to know the enemy. The more you know about your enemy the easier it makes your battle. Likewise, life is a battle against shaytan- The enemy of our souls- We need to study about him and his tactics he uses to lead people astray.

2. Always look to Allah for help:

Allah wants to help you and He is always with you. As Muslims we have direct access to Allah. When you wake up in the morning everyday ask Allah to protect you from evil temptations of this world. Make a habit to confess your sins and ask Allah for forgiveness before you go to bed.

3. Spend time with Allah:

A daily relationship with Allah is the basic principle to control our self from sins. Spend some time reading the Quran and indulging in Zikr. Make it a habit. It will help you to stay focused on Allah in your daily activities.

4. Avoid sinful situations:

A Muslim would be very careful to avoid sins and to avoid situations that are likely to cause sin. Sins often comes searching for you, so if you find yourself in a certain situation that you are more likely to fall in sin; it’s the time for you to walk away from that place.

5. Know the consequences:

Sin is a wall that separates us from Allah and it can enslave us and destroy our whole life. Countless lives have been ruined today because of pursuing things that Allah has forbidden. Remember that Allah has blessed with us with a healthy body and a sound mind, as a result being ungrateful for his gifts will draw severe punishments.

6. Fill your mind with Allah:

Thinking about something often can bring it to life; therefore avoid thinking about things that would arise evil temptations in your mind. Try to fill your mind with the remembrance of Allah.

7. Repent immediately when you fail:

If you fail and fall into sin, repent immediately. You should regret it and be determined never to indulge in any sinful behavior in the future.

Islam Asked by Yasar on December 7, 2021

I am doing one sin long time (more than 10yrs Please include me in your duas). But now I have dua that I wish very very to accept by allah. So i give up all the sins and started doing good indeeds.

But whenever I inteneted or tempted to do that sin, I think about that dua to be accepted and I will change my mind. So I afraid that instead of giving up sin for allaah.

Is it permissible to avoid that sin for dua to be acceptance. I afraid that whether my niyyath is wrong or I should afraid of allah when I tempted to do that.

Allah know the best.

One Answer

Assalamualaikum my brother. Us human will never be an exceptional in making sins. It’s how that we seek for Allah forgiveness when doing those wrong things.

It is good that you stop doing the sins and make more dua to Allah. However, as a human being we cannot control whether the dua to be accepted or not. What we can do is just to have faith in Allah. To be patient and sincere in life and hope for the best. Allah knows what’s the best for you, at the correct moment. And if you wish for something and it turns out that there are better things for you, Allah will replace them.

Therefore brother, correct and sincere your niyyath. Have faith and be patience. Just don’t stop to make dua in your everyday prayer. In sha Allah one day, you will get what’s the best for you.

Answered by Winter Bucky on December 7, 2021

What we repeatedly do in our daily life routine is known as habits. Our daily lives are usually a set of habits which we do throughout the day. We have all kinds of habits some are good and some are bad. We don’t realize earlier about bad habits when we realized about them it’s been too late to leave them. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) warned us against bad habits and asked us to do good deeds if we want to get rid of from bad habits.

In this article, we will discuss some essential tips to change bad habits. Don’t be overwhelmed be patience and remember some simple steps mentioned below which will help you to change the bad habits in a successful way.

1) identify your bad habits. Two steps are required to identify bad habits. First one is to compare your life with our value system that is whether you are living your life according to the teachings of Islam that is according to Quran and Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (SAW). The second one is to compare your life with the role model.

2) Remember Allah Almighty loves those who commit mistakes and repent. Holy Prophet (SAW) said: “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you out of existence and He would replace (you by) those people who would commit sin and seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would have pardoned them.” (Muslim)

3) Plan to change your bad habits. It should include your reasons for changing; obstacles you will face and also support which will help to achieve your planning to get rid of bad habits.

4) Replace a bad habit with the good one. It’s essential to replace the lost natural needs, such as the need to socialize and to be entertained with something healthy. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) described in these words: “Fear Allah wherever you may be; follows up an evil deed with a good one which will wipe (the former) out, and behave good-naturedly towards people.” (Tirmidhi)

5) Think yourself as a different person. Tell yourself that you can do better simply motivate yourself which will definitely be going to help you in this manner.

6) Changing the habits in a way to other things requires time, effort and a lot of willpower, so it’s wise to make the change slowly rather than in one go.

7) Do Dua at the beginning, all along and till the end – asking Allah Almighty for help and courage to quit all the bad habits and for constancy to prevent a setback.

8) Worship is the most important factor that always strengthens individual to resist his soul and a power that weakens the soul.

9)Remind yourself the death and hereafter which will surely be going to help you to get rid of bad habits. Holy Prophet (PBUH) said in one of his hadith in these words: “Remember often the terminator (or destroyer) of all the pleasures [i.e. death],” the Prophet once stated. (Tirmidhi)

These were some tips that you can follow to change your bad habits. Just start to change your habits slowly with patience. May Allah help us in this matter! Ameen

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· To learn the definition of sin and disbelief.

· To learn the types of sins.

· To learn some examples of disbelief.

· To learn who is a disbeliever.

· To learn 4 reasons that prevent a Muslim from becoming a disbeliever.

· To learn if a person can return to Islam after leaving it.

· Imaan – faith, belief or conviction.

· Kufr – disbelief.

· Kafir – (plural: kuffar) disbeliever.

· Shahadah – Testimony of Faith.

· Shariah – Islamic Law.

· Shirk – a word that implies ascribing partners to Allah, or ascribing divine attributes to other than Allah, or believing that the source of power, harm and blessings comes from another besides Allah.

· Sunnah – The word Sunnah has several meanings depending on the area of study however the meaning is generally accepted to be, whatever was reported that the Prophet said, did, or approved.

Definition of Sin & its Types

How to give up sins (for muslims)A sin is defined as an act of disobedience in which a person leaves Allah’s command. A sinner contradicts Shariah by opposing a command of Allah given in the Quran or Sunnah. Scholars describe a sin with the image of “stepping out” of divine obedience by doing what is forbidden or leaving what is required. Islam teaches that man is not born in sin, rather he becomes sinful when he commits a sin.

Sins can be categorized into:

a) Kufr (disbelief): It takes a person outside of the fold of Islam and makes him a disbeliever. Examples of this sin will be clarified below, but it should be clear that kufr will take a person out of the fold of Islam when they are consciously aware of the nature and severity of the sin they are doing. In essence, kufr constitutes completely “stepping out” of Islam and divine obedience. A person who commits kufr is called a ‘disbeliever’ (Arabic: kafir) and he is no longer a Muslim. If he dies in that state, he will enter into Hell and stay there forever (9:84; 24:55). It should be noted that calling someone a kafir (disbeliever) is not to be done by the average individual; it is a ruling issued by Islamic scholars. If a Muslim sees another committing an act of kufr they are to give that person advice repetitively but the title ‘disbeliever’ should not be given to him.

It is important to note that despite stepping into disbelief, a person can re-enter Islam at any time before death.

b) Major and minor sins: The one who commits major and minor sins does not lose all their faith and is within the fold of Islam (49:6; 2:282). Such a person is a Muslim, but with damaged faith (Arabic: “imaan”).

The remaining lesson will explain disbelief.

Definition of Disbelief

“Disbelief” (Arabic: kufr) is defined as absence of faith (Arabic: imaan) by all Muslim scholars. It does not matter whether the person speaks of it or holds it in the heart. [1] In other words, ‘disbelief’ (Arabic: kufr) is any word, act, or belief that contradicts faith (Arabic: imaan).

Examples of Disbelief

1. Committing shirk.

2. Hating or cursing God and the Quran.

3. Hating, cursing, abusing, or making fun of Prophet Muhammad even if a person is convinced of his truthfulness.

4. Saying Prophet Muhammad lied.

5. Knowing the Prophet conveyed the truth, but rejecting to follow his teachings.

6. Making fun of any teaching of Islam.

7. Prostrating to an idol.

8. Worshipping Prophet Muhammad the way Christians worship Jesus.

Who is a Disbeliever, a Kafir?

A disbeliever is a person who disbelieves in the message of Prophet Muhammad. It is one who has not uttered the two testimonies, lacks the correct Islamic faith (imaan), or holds a belief, says a word, or does an act of disbelief.

There is an important point to be understood here. If a person who becomes a Muslim by uttering the Testimony of Faith (shahadah) holds a belief, says, or does what is considered kufr, he may not necessarily become a disbeliever. The reason is that after becoming a Muslim, there are certain obstacles that prevent a person from becoming a kafir.

Reasons That Prevent a Person from Becoming a Disbeliever

A Muslim might fall into disbelief, but not become a disbeliever due to one of the following reasons: [2]

1. Ignorance

A convert, a Muslim who grew up in a remote area, or a Muslim who was raised in an irreligious environment may be ignorant of the basic beliefs, religious duties, and prohibitions of Islam. Such a person may not know, for example, that Islam prohibits homosexuality or requires prayers five times a day. These people may fall into disbelief, but will not become disbelievers because in the sight of Allah they may be excused due to their ignorance.

2. Mistake

A person may miss the mark and do something he never intended. He may simply make an unintentional, honest mistake. For example, if a convert to Islam believes that consuming alcohol is only forbidden at prayer times. From a textual perspective, consuming alcohol, while believing it to be lawful, is an act of disbelief, but this person would not become a disbeliever because of the honest mistake he committed.

3. Compulsion

A person may be forced to do or say what amounts to disbelief because of a direct threat to their life or limb or their loved ones. In any such situation the heart should always be content with Islam, full of faith; thereafter, a person may say or do what is kufr (16:106).

4. Misinterpretation

He may have some confusion and some misinterpretation that he adheres to, thinking that what he believes is actually part of Islam when it is not.

Returning to Islam After Leaving It

A person who knowingly left the fold of Islam can become a Muslim again. His ‘repentance’ is to re-enter Islam and he does so by repeating the Testimony of Faith (shahadah).

If he left Islam for opposing an obligatory duty, then he must also acknowledge that duty. Let us say he used to deny the obligation of the five daily prayers. When he re-enters Islam, he must acknowledge that these prayers are required, otherwise, his repentance would not be accepted.

[1] Majmu Fatawa li Ibn Taimiyya, vol 20, p. 86

[2] Nawaqidh al-Imaan al-I’tiqadiyya wa Dhawabit al-Takfir ind as-Salaf by Dr. Muhammad al-Wuhaibi, vol. 1 p. 225 – vol.2 p. 36

Question

I have a question which I am shy to ask but another sister who has come to Islam recently wants an answer to and I do not have an answer (with evidence from the Quran and Sunnah). I hope you can help and I hope Allah will forgive me if it is inappropriate but as Muslims we should never be shy in seeking knowledge. Her question was “Is it permissible in Islam to masturbate?”

May Allah increase us all in knowledge!

Summary of answer

Answer

  • Is masturbation haram in Islam?
  • Prohibition of masturbation in the Quran
  • Prohibition of masturbation in the Sunnah
  • Tips on how to give up masturbation

Praise be to Allah.

Is masturbation haram in Islam?

Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:

Prohibition of masturbation in the Quran

Al-Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Quran (interpretation of the meaning):

(Al-Muminun 23:5-7)

Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or what their right hand possesses.

Some scholars used as evidence the ayah (in meaning),

This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.

Prohibition of masturbation in the Sunnah

‘Abdullaah ibn Mas’ud said, “We were with the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said, ‘O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power.’” (Al-Bukhari 5066)

The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.

There is additional evidence that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here.

Tips on how to give up masturbation

As for curing/treating the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:

1. The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allah’s orders and fearing His punishment.

2. A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) hadeeth.

3. Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the Hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.

4. Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haram (forbidden). Allah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadith.

Allah’s Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look.” (Al-Tirmidhi, 2777) This is a general instruction by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haram (forbidden).

5. Using one’s available leisure time in worshipping Allah and increasing religious knowledge.

6. Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feelings of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation, especially in the winter, and the invalidating of the fast.

7. Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality, while they may not be at the gates of that immorality to begin with.

8. Strengthening one’s willpower and not surrendering to the shaytan, and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) when he said “Do not spend the night alone” Ahmad, 6919.

9. Following the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) aforementioned hadeeth and fasting when possible, because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.

10. Trying to follow the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading the well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet-peace and blessings be upon him- forbade sleeping on the belly).

11. Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) explains in the following hadith:

“Whoever seeks chastity Allah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience.” Al-Bukhari:1469.

12. If one falls into this sin, they must hasten to repent, asking forgiveness from Allah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair; these are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allah.

13. Finally, Allah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness and help will be accepted, by His will.

For more about the issues related to masturbation, please see these answers: 826, 27112 and 245978

How to give up Sins

The central theme of the Majalis of all Mashayikh is on giving up sins. We’re always looking for easy ways & Maulana Yunus Patel (R) has shown a few easy steps for quick progress on the path of piety. what to do & not to do. These few pointers are so effective that, by following them, half the battle is won! Some advices- Attend the talks of the pious, listen to their recordings & read their Kitabs, be punctual in Salah, give up television & novels/magazines (also don’t browse the net unnecessarily). Just a little courage, sacrifice & effort. & you’re on the highway to Jannah!!

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How to give up sins (for muslims)

Islam teaches that God (Allah) has sent guidance to human beings, through His prophets and books of revelation. Believers are expected to follow that guidance to the best of their ability.

Islam defines sin as an act which goes against the teachings of Allah. All human beings sin, as none of us is perfect. Islam teaches that Allah, Who created us and all of our imperfections, knows this about us and is All-Forgiving, Merciful, and Compassionate.

What is the definition of a “sin”? The Prophet Muhammad once said, “Righteousness is good character, and sin is that which wavers in your heart and which you do not want people to know about.”

In Islam, there is nothing like the Christian concept of original sin, for which all human beings are eternally punished. Nor does sinning automatically cause someone to be ousted from the faith of Islam.

Followers each try their best but fall short and seek Allah’s forgiveness for their shortcomings. Allah is prepared to forgive, as the Quran describes: “…God will love you and forgive you your sins; for God is Much-Forgiving, a Dispenser of Grace” (Quran 3:31).

Of course, sin is something to be avoided. From an Islamic perspective, however, there are some sins which are extremely serious and are thus known as Major Sins. These are mentioned in the Quran as being worthy of punishment both in this world and the hereafter. (See below for a list.)

Other missteps are known as Minor Sins; not because they are insignificant, but rather because they are not mentioned in the Quran as having a legal punishment. These so-called “minor sins” are sometimes overlooked by a believer, who then engages in them to the extent that they become part of their lifestyle.

Making a habit of sinning brings a person further away from Allah, and causes them to lose faith. The Quran describes such people: “. their hearts have been sealed by the sins they have accumulated” (Quran 83:14). Additionally, Allah says that “you counted it a little thing, while with Allah it was very great” (Quran 24:15).

One who recognizes that he or she is engaging in minor sins must vow to make lifestyle changes. They must recognize the problem, feel remorse, vow not to repeat the mistakes, and seek forgiveness from Allah. Believers who sincerely care about Allah and the hereafter must do their best to avoid both Major and Minor sins.

Major Sins in Islam

The major sins in Islam include the following behaviors:

  • Associating others with God (shirk or polytheism) – This is the only sin which Allah considers unforgivable, as it violates the primary tenet of Islam which is the Unity of God.
  • Murder
  • Adultery or fornication
  • Theft
  • Consuming usury (interest)
  • Stealing from an orphan’s estate
  • Bearing false witness
  • Engaging in magic or fortune-telling
  • Abandoning the battlefield during a time of war
  • Drinking alcohol
  • Slandering chaste women
  • Disrespecting one’s parents

Minor Sins in Islam

It is difficult to list all of the minor sins in Islam. The list should include anything which violates Allah’s guidance, which is not itself a Major sin. A minor sin is something you are ashamed of, which you would not want people to find out about. Some of the most common behaviors include:

  • Breaking a promise
  • Being immodest (flirting, watching obscene movies/TV, etc.)
  • Being suspicious or spying on others
  • Name-calling or bullying another person
  • Talking excessively about things which are not our business
  • Swearing
  • and so on.

Repentance and Forgiveness

In Islam, committing a sin doesn’t eternally separate a person from the Almighty. The Quran reassures us that Allah is prepared to forgive us. “Say: Oh, my servants who have transgressed against their own souls! Do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Indeed Allah forgives all sins, for Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful” (Quran 39:53).

The Effects Of Sins – Islam for Muslims – Nairaland

Targheeb and Tarheeb
The Effects of Sins
Author: Ibn al-Qayyim
Source: Al-Jawab al-Kaafi

ONE. The Prevention of Knowledge: Knowledge is a light which Allaah throws into the heart and disobedience extinguishes this light.
Imaam Shaafi’ee said:
I complained to Wakee’ about the weakness of my memory
So he ordered me to abandon disobedience
And informed me that the knowledge is light
And that the light of Allaah is not given to the disobedient

TWO. The Prevention of Sustenance: Just as Taqwaa brings about sustenance, the abandonment of Taqwaa causes poverty. There is nothing which can bring about sustenance like the abandonment of disobedience

THREE. The prevention of obedience (to Allaah). If there was no other punishment for sin other than that it prevents one from obedience to Allaah then this would be sufficient.

FOUR. Disobedience weakens the heart and the body. Its weakening the heart is something which is clear. Disobedience does not stop weakening it until the life of the heart ceases completely.

FIVE. Disobedience reduces the lifespan and destroys any blessings. Just as righteousness increases the lifespan, sinning reduces it.

SIX. Disobedience sows its own seeds and gives birth to itself until separating from it and coming out of it becomes difficult for the servant.

SEVEN. Sins weaken the hearts will and resolve so that the desire for disobedience becomes strong and the desire to repent becomes weak bit by bit until the desire to repent is removed from the heart completely.

EIGHT. Every type of disobedience is a legacy of a nation from among the nations which Allaah Azzawajall destroyed. Sodomy is a legacy of the People of Lot, taking more than one’s due right and giving what is less is a legacy of the People of Shu’ayb, seeking greatness in the land and causing corruption is a legacy of the People of Pharoah and pride/arrogance and tyranny is a legacy of the People of Hud. So the disobedient one is wearing the gown of some of these nations who were the enemies of Allaah.

NINE. Disobedience is a cause of the servant being held in contempt by his Lord. Al-Hasan al-Basree (rh) said: They became contemptible in (His sight) so they disobeyed Him. If they were honourable (in His sight) He would have protected them. Allah the Exalted said:
And whomsoever Allaah lowers (humiliates) there is none to give honour. [Hajj 22:18]

TEN. The ill-effects of the sinner fall upon those besides him and also the animals as a result of which they are touched by harm.

ELEVEN. The servant continues to commit sins until they become very easy for him and seem insignificant in his heart and this is a sign of destruction. Every time a sin becomes insignificant in the sight of the servant it becomes great in the sight of Allaah.
Ibn Mas’ood (ra) said: Indeed, the believer sees his sins as if he was standing at the foot of a mountain fearing that it will fall upon him and the sinner sees his sins like a fly which passes by his nose so he tries to remove it by waving his hand around. [Bukhaaree]

TWELVE. Disobedience inherits humiliation and lowliness. Honour, all of it, lies in the obedience of Allaah. Abdullaah ibn al-Mubaarak said:
I have seen sins kill the hearts
And humiliation is inherited by their continuity
The abandonment of sins gives life to the hearts
And the prevention of your soul is better for it

THIRTEEN. Disobedience corrupts the intellect. The intellect has light and disobedience extinguishes this light. When the light of the intellect is extinguished it becomes weak and deficient.

FOURTEEN. When disobedience increases, the servant’s heart becomes sealed so that he becomes of those who are heedless. The Exalted said:
But no! A stain has been left on their hearts on account of what they used to earn (i.e. their actions) [Mutaffifeen 83:14]

FIFTEEN. Sins cause the various types of corruption to occur in the land. Corruption of the waters, the air, the plants, the fruits and the dwelling places. The Exalted said:
Mischief has appeared on the land and the sea on account of what the hands of men have earned; that He may give them a taste of some of (the actions) they have done, in order that they may return. [Rum 30:41]

SIXTEEN. The disappearance of modesty which is the essence of the life of the heart and is the basis of every good. Its disappearance is the disappearance of all that is good. It is authentic from the Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) that he said: Modesty is goodness, all of it [Bukhaaree and Muslim] A Poet said:
And by Allaah, there is no good in life Or in the world when modesty goes

SEVENTEEN. Sins weaken and reduce themagnification of Allaah, the Mighty in the heart ofthe servant

EIGHTEEN. Sins are the cause of Allaah forgetting His servant, abandoning him and leaving him to fend for himself with his soul and his shaytaan and in this is the destruction from which no deliverance can be hoped for.

NINETEEN. Sins remove the servant from the realm of Ihsaan (doing good) and he is prevented from (obtaining) the reward of those who do good. When Ihsaan fills the heart it prevents it from disobedience.

Sometimes we realize that some of our habits are actually sins. Although we accept this, we cannot give up those habits/sins. And we always feel sorry for this. So how can we get rid of this situation and stop committing sins that have become our habits?

Strengthening the faith is the way to give up them. And knowing Allah (SWT) is a must to strengthen the belief. We can know Allah through the Qur’an. It tells us about magnificence of Allah, the severity of His punishment, and His vast mercy. Whoever understands these attributes of Allah will always be afraid of Allah’s punishment and will never lose his hope in Allah’s mercy. When he encounters a sin, he will not commit it remembering the punishment. And when he encounters pious, good deeds and worship, he enthusiastically will try to perform them keeping in mind the vast mercy of Allah.

Actually, worship itself helps us to strengthen our faith. Especially, performing the five prescribed prayers empowers the belief; what is more, the prayers are the means to other worships and getting away from the sins. “Indeed, prayer keeps (one) away from immorality and wrongdoing,” (Ankabut, 29:45) expresses this truth.

The sin is like a poisonous honey. Just after committing a sin, its pain comes. Apart from the punishments that will be given in the hereafter, every sin includes an immediate pain and torture here in this world, too. If we can realize this (that we even suffer from the sins- spiritually, psychologically, and even physically- in our worldly lives), we will be stronger not to continue committing sins. And the worship not only brings us benefits in the hereafter. There is an immediate and great pleasure included in worships, too. We can really feel and experience it after we perform worship.

If we show these two facts (that there is instant pain after a sin, and instant pleasure in worship) to our souls, it will help us to give up our sins and to perform our worships better. Because the feelings of man are afraid of present suffering and pain as they are very fond of immediate pleasure.

Allah is always present with us; we can get rid of sins keeping this in our minds. A person with a strong faith knows the existence of his Creator by contemplating the creatures in the world, and realizes the attributes and divine names of Allah seeing the continuous works of creation everywhere. So, that person gets to know his Creator. And he thinks it is a disrespect to commit sins in the presence of Allah, and he gives up bad morals and sins. Everyone has a share from this reflection and gets benefit as much as he can.

Alhamdulillah, there are many truths to strengthen our faith and to guide us to give up our habitual sins. Aforementioned are a few of them. We ask Allah (SWT) to make us among the ones who abstain from sins and the ones who truly perform their worships. Amin.

Muslim husband and wife should never do these four things mentioned, please read carefully and spread it to the married couples in your vicinity.

Marriage is a very beautiful and pure relationship between a girl and a boy. Allah complete half faith of that person who got married. But now in this time when internet ruling vastly and the new generation is not able to distinguish between Halal and Haram intimacy then there would be someone to teach them that what kind of intimacy is halal or what things are haram. So, here is some restriction for Muslim husband and wives while having the Marital relation.

The First thing which is Haram, Intimacy through Anus. It’s forbidden in Islam. Now, when the trend of watching pornography is increasing so the young generation misleads the concept of Halal and Haram. You all must have the awareness that it’s strictly forbidden in Islam.

Secondly, intimacy in the menstrual cycle of women is also Haram and strictly forbidden in Islam on Muslim husband. After the birth of the child when women suffer the same cycle for the month then intimacy is also Haram. Because it will harm the women health and also if women get pregnant with that intimacy then that child will not be physically normal. So, they should avoid intimacy in those periods.

Thirdly, you should not be filthy, Yes, he or she is now your spouse but it doesn’t mean that you use the vulgar language and do bad acts. You should be ethical and be using that kind of vulgar words is forbidden in Islam.

Lastly, the major issue is using different tools for intimacy. We are Muslim and we should know that Islam doesn’t allow us to use any tool. The using of tools is the necessity of the west. We are not allowed to follow them. They are Non-Muslim they can use. But your religion is based on purity.

We are hoping that you will get something useful and informative there. May Allah protect our faith.

Personal pleas to Allah, known as ‘du’a,’ can include requests for mercy

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How to give up sins (for muslims)

Devout Muslims believe that Allah is merciful and that only he can forgive their sins. All human beings make mistakes, and Muslims understand that forgiveness from Allah requires that they recognize the error, take steps to rectify any harm they have caused, and actively beseech Allah to forgive their sins.

Additionally, the sinner should feel sorry for committing the sins, resolve to abstain from committing them in the future, and avoid situations that encourage the sinful behavior. Using Allah’s names that reflect his attributes of forgiveness and kindness is recommended. These include “He who pardons,” “He who forgives,” and “The oft-forgiving.”

For Muslims, “prayer” is a term reserved for one of the five formal, scheduled prayers of the day. Other forms of communication with God are known as du’a, including the ones recounted here that seek God’s forgiveness. For Muslims, du’a is a different form of communication with God, a personal supplication that can occur at any time of the day, whenever one feels the need to communicate with God outside the five formal daily prayers.

When they are using several repetitions to recite du’a, Muslims often use prayer beads, known as subha, to keep track of the number of times they repeat a du’a. Many simple phrases seeking Allah’s forgiveness can be repeated in this way. Muslims may ask forgiveness from Allah using any words in any language, but the following personal prayers (du’a) from Islamic tradition are the most common:

Du’a From the Quran:

“Waqur rabbighfir warham wa’anta khayrur rahimeen.”
“So say, “Our Lord! Grant us forgiveness and mercy! For You are the Best of those who show mercy.”
Quran 23:118

“Rabbi inni zalamto nafsi faghfirli.”
“Oh my Lord, I have indeed wronged my soul!”
Quran 28:16
“Rabbana innana amanna faghfir lana zonoobana waqina ‘athaban nar.”
“Our Lord! We have indeed believed. Forgive us our sins and save us from the agony of the Fire.”
Quran 3:16

“Rabbana latu akhitna in nasina akhta’na rabbana wala tahmil ‘alayna isran kama hamaltaho ‘alal lathina min qablina. Rabbana wala tohammilna mala taqata lana beh wa’fo’anna waghfir lana warhamna anta maolana fansorna ‘alal qawmil kafireen.”
“Our Lord! Condemn us not if we forget or fall into error. Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us. Our Lord! Lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Blot out our sins, and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Protector. Help us against those who stand against faith.”
Quran 2:286

Du’a From the Sunnah:

“Astagh firol lahal-lathi la ilaha illa howal hayyal qayyoma w’atooba ilayh.”
“I seek forgiveness from Allah. There is no deity but Him, the Living, the Eternal. And I repent unto Him.” (It is recommended to repeat this three times.)
“Subhanakal lahomma wabihamdik. Ash-hado alla-ilaha-illa ant. Astaghfiroka w’atoobo-ilayk.”
“Glory be to You, Oh Allah, and all praise! I testify that there is no deity but You. I seek Your forgiveness and to You I do repent.” (It is recommended to repeat this three times.)

I suppose things like lying, sex before marriage and having a boyfriend (better if he is also Muslim) etc are forgivable.

And that assigning partners to God is an unforgivable sin.

But can you tell me of some more unforgivable sins? Or is that the only one?

“Nothing is unforgivable.”

No I mean like what if you die while in that state kind of sin?

I mean, surely assigning partners to God is not permanently unforgivable because what if someone then reverts to Islam(like I did for example) and then believes in One God only).

But what are some sins that are unforgivable if you die without changing it?

(Like surely you can be forgiven for lying if you die as someone who assigned partners to God, but if you die believing that then that sin won’t be forgiven).

“Nothing is unforgivable.”

No I mean like what if you die while in that state kind of sin?

I mean, surely assigning partners to God is not permanently unforgivable because what if someone then reverts to Islam(like I did for example) and then believes in One God only).

But what are some sins that are unforgivable if you die without changing it?

(Like surely you can be forgiven for lying if you die as someone who assigned partners to God, but if you die believing that then that sin won’t be forgiven).

“Obviously, wife beating, child abuse, rape, murder, taking slaves and killing unbelievers aren’t some of them.”

The same can be said for Christianity. Don’t forget the fact I was a very practicing Orthodox Christian, who followed Jesus and the Trinity.

And by Muslim boyfriend I meant I can marry him in the future because now we’ll both be Muslims, etc, but a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, etc.

“Obviously, wife beating, child abuse, rape, murder, taking slaves and killing unbelievers aren’t some of them.”

The same can be said for Christianity. Don’t forget the fact I was a very practicing Orthodox Christian, who followed Jesus and the Trinity.

And by Muslim boyfriend I meant I can marry him in the future because now we’ll both be Muslims, etc, but a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man, etc.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

Pornography consumption is not something that can easily be stopped. Once the appetite for it has developed, it actually increases.

In his 1988 study Pornography Effects: Empirical and Clinical Evidence, Victor Cline, then with the University of Utah’s Department of Psychology noted that studies show pornography is progressive and addictive for many. It often leads to the user acting out his fantasy – often on children.

For those who have been trained from a young age to lower their gaze and practice Islamic principles of modesty, this may not even be an issue.

But for those who have sadly fallen into pornography addiction, there is a way out.

Alcoholics’ Anonymous is an organization that has fought the battle against alcohol addiction since 1935. Its “Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous” provides a clear, general guide on how to get out of the addiction of alcohol, which has killed people, ruined families and led to health problems.

Sound Vision has adapted the 12 steps from this guide to offer some guidance on how those addicted to pornography can get out of it.

Step One-Admit that you can’t give up

Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.

Step Two-Admit only God can get you out of this

You know, after trying using so many different ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.

Step Three-Your life and death are all in Allah’s control

You have decided to put your complete trust in Allah, who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death. You have chosen to seek His Help first and foremost.

Step Four-You have completed a self-analysis

You have done an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points and bad points, analyzed your addiction, and tried to understand how you reached this point.

Step Five-Made a specific repentance to Allah

You have admitted to Allah, to yourself, and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. You did not make a general request for repentance. You specifically listed your mistakes, and in particular, your addiction to pornography.

Step Six-You were open and ready to receive Allah’s help to change

You know that your Tawbah (repentence to God) and being sincere, must be followed by action. You are ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful. Even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the internet alone.

Step Seven- You have asked for the removal of faults

You have asked Allah, with sincerity, humility and regret, to help you never repeat this action (i.e. looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past again.

Step Eight-You have decided to seek others’ forgiveness

You have made a list of everyone you had hurt through your addiction, whether it was your spouse, children or parents, and made the intention to approach them seeking forgiveness. You must not, however, disclose your addiction since whatever Allah has kept hidden must remain hidden. You just seek forgiveness for any possible act of harm and hurt. Allah does not like a sin to be advertised.

Step Nine-Seek forgiveness of God

Seek the forgiveness and protection of Allah. Do sadaqah (charity) and fast as kaffarah if possible.

Step Ten-You have completed nightly self-evaluations

You continually, every night, have done an honest self-evaluation of your behavior, and were ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.

Step Eleven-You have prayed for greater God-consciousness

You prayed and continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah, and a consciousness of Him (Taqwa) wherever you are. You increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.

Step Twelve-You preached and practiced

You have not just “moved on” after Allah blessed you to get out of this addiction. You helped others you knew with this problem with regular contact and sincere advice. By the grace of Allah, helping others helped you maintain control over your addiction and you helped another person get out of this destruction and misery.

To err is human. We have repeatedly heard this saying, which is probably why we often forget how to correct our mistakes. As Muslims, we must recognize our sins and repent. Through the Holy Quran and Ahadith, Allah (SWT) has provided us with several powerful prayers to seek forgiveness and mercy.

We must avoid the mistake of dwelling on our mistakes and losing hope in Almighty Allah’s Mercy.

The doors of repentance and Allah’s Mercy are always open. We shouldn’t only seek forgiveness for sins we’re consciously aware of. Rather, we must repent and seek mercy for the sins we have committed unknowingly, as well.

What are Islamic Duas for Forgiveness?

In our last post we talked about Forgiveness In Islam & Best Islamic Quotes on Forgiveness, today we shall focus on how this forgiveness can be asked for by the servants of Allah. Of Allah Almighty’s 99 names, Al-Ghafoor occurs 91 times in the Holy Quran. Its translation is The All-Forgiving . Al-Ghafoor and Ar-Raheem ( Merciful ) are the most common pairs of Allah’s (SWT) names. Through his words, Allah reminds Muslims of his Mercy and Forgiveness.

In one instance, Allah says, “Announce, (O Muhammad) to My slaves that verily I am the Forgiving, the Merciful.” (Chapter Al-Hijr: 49)

All Muslims must account for their sins on the Day of Judgement. Thus, we must seek forgiveness from Allah Almighty so that He removes our misdeeds and increases our chances of entering Jannah. Although forgiveness depends on Allah’s Will, as long as there is hope, we must try. Repentance doesn’t only involve praying; it requires a firm resolve to do better.
Repentance is accepted if it is genuine and sincere. If a person is not ashamed of his misdeeds, it does not account for true repentance. Your repentance will become invalid when the sun rises from the West. You must not delay seeking Allah’s mercy and forgiveness, and repent while you have time.

“Truly, Allah loves those who repent, and He loves those who cleanse themselves.” (Chapter Al-Baqarah 2:222)

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 12. Prophet Muhammad’s (PBUH) dua for forgiveness

The Messenger of Allah (SAW) used to say the following while prostrating himself:

O Lord, forgive all my sins, small and great, first and last, open and secret. [Muslim:1/350]

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 11. Ayat e Kareema

“There is none worthy of worship besides You, You are far exalted, and above all weaknesses, Surely, I am from among the wrongdoers.”

Prophet Younus (AS) recited this prayer when he was in the fish’s belly. Ayat e Kareema is known to be highly beneficial. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) mentioned, “When any Muslim makes dua with these words during his illness 40 times and then if he dies of that disease, he is granted the reward of a martyr, and if he recovers from that disease, then all of his sins are forgiven.”

↓ 10. Surah al-Baqarah (2:286)

Surah Baqarah, the longest chapter in the Holy Quran, covers a vast range of topics.

Verse 286 of Surah Baqarah talks about accountability and retribution. We will only be rewarded for the service we render. The Surah mentions that we will be rewarded in proportion to the good deeds we have done. This same principle also applies to punishment for our misdeeds. To seek refuge from Allah’s punishment, we must repeatedly make Tawbah and pray for Allah’s (SWT) clemency.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 9. Best supplication for seeking forgiveness

The Holy Prophet (PBUH) mentioned that if someone recites Syed-ul-Istighfar during the day with firm faith and dies the same day, he will be among the people of Paradise. If someone recites it at night and dies before the next morning, he will be among the people of Paradise.

Shaddad bin Aus (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said that the Syed-ul-Istighfar is the best prayer for seeking forgiveness.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 8. Praying for Allah’s (SWT) Mercy

As mentioned above, repentance must be sincere and should display humility. Besides seeking Allah’s Mercy, one should also pray for the abandonment of evil deeds.

Allah says, “And verily, I am indeed Forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them, (till his death).”

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 7. Prophet Nuh’s (AS) prayer for forgiveness

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 6. Surah Al-A’raf, Verse 23

When Adam (AS) and Hawwa (AS) fell victim to Shaytaan’s evil whispering, they made this dua for repentance. As Allah is the Most Merciful, he accepted their repentance.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 5. Dua for forgiveness and removal of misdeeds

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 4. Forgiveness Dua/Prayer from Hadith

According to Ibn Umar, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) recited this prayer 100 times in a single sitting. It asks Allah for forgiveness by praising Him, mentioning some of His majestic attributes.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 3. Fifth Kalmah

When you sin, it disturbs the peace of mind. Thus, the only way forward is to seek Allah’s mercy through Astaghfar.
The fifth Kalmah also referred to as Astaghfar, is a conscious apology. It helps relieve one’s self from the guilt and burden of sinning.

Reciting the Kalmah can have multiple emotional and physical benefits as it eliminates stress and anxiety.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 2. Prayer for repentance

Although quite simple, this is yet another powerful supplication for forgiveness.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

↓ 1. Astaghfirullah Tasbeeh (100 times)

The power and benefits of reciting “استغفر الله” are innumerable. Its literal meaning is “I seek forgiveness from Allah.” It was the Holy Prophet’s (PBUH) Sunnah to recite “Astaghfirullah” and “Astaghfir Allah wa atoobu ilayh” 100 times daily.

Furthermore, according to Hadith, the Messenger of Allah has asked us to recite Istighfar thrice, immediately after concluding Salah.

If you realize that you’re fallible and prone to making mistakes, you can make this short dua a part of your daily prayers. Astaghfirullah is among several duas that the Holy Prophet (PBUH) used to recite for forgiveness. Daily recitation of Astaghfar opens the doors of knowledge, removes anxiety, and increases our prayers’ likelihood of getting answered.

How to give up sins (for muslims)

What is zina? When is it said that a person has committed zina? Questions like these have become common as our societies become more liberal and zina is becoming more common practice.

Zina means fornication and adultery, and it is considered a major sin in Islam. Fornication is the sexual intercourse that takes place between two people who are not married to each other, and adultery is sexual intercourse between two people, one or both of which are married, but not married to their co-adulterer.

And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allah forgives him” ( al-Isra’ 17:32 )

This is a verse of the Quran where Allah (ta’ala) specifically forbids zina. In fact, according to many texts, zina is a great sin just after shirk and murder, and graver than alcohol or gambling.

And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such person as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse” [ al-Furqaan 25:68 ].

Zina is mentioned along with shirk and murder, two of the greatest sins in Islam.

The Punishment for Zina

There are many sins that do not have a punishment administered by humans in this world because their punishment is only with Allah (ta’ala). But for zina, both fornicators and adulterers have their punishments as stipulated in the Sharia’ah.

The messenger of Allah (‎ﷺ) said: “ When an unmarried man, commits adultery with an unmarried woman, they should receive one hundred lashes and be exiled for a year. If they (fornicate while they) were married, they shall receive hundred lashes and be stoned to death. Reported by Muslim.” ( Bulugh al-Maram )

Because of the severity of the punishment for zina, the ways of convicting someone of zina are not so easy.

For a man or woman to be convicted of zina, there has to be four credible Muslims who witnessed the sexual intercourse, or the parties involved in zina confesses, or an unmarried woman becomes pregnant.

These are the conditions that have to be satisfied before someone can be convicted of zina. You cannot just assume that two people are committing zina and therefore label them fornicators or adulterers. That is wrong in Islam.

Zina and Our Societies

Unfortunately, despite the severity of zina in Islam, it has become so common in our societies.

We have gradually blurred the lines of haya (modesty), such that two unmarried people feel free to live together and openly practice fornication. And many married folks are in the habit of having extra-marital affairs with another person.

As Muslims, we should always remember that zina is not only a transgression against our Lord, it is also a transgression against our personal honour.

The honour of a Muslim is sacred. Even if you don’t consider yourself a pious person, part of being a good Muslim is being an honorable person.

Protecting Ourselves Against Zina

Because many of our societies have become openly accepting of zina, it is the duty of every Muslim who fears Allah (ta’ala) to strive to protect themselves from falling into this great sin by doing the following:

Get Married

Many people fall into zina because they do not have a lawful way to release their sexual desires.

Islam has given us a beautiful way out in terms of marriage, and for a Muslim who thinks that they cannot control their sexual urge, the best thing is to get married.

Don’t delay your marriage for flimsy reasons, as this can lead to one finding sins attractive.

Fast

The messenger of Allah (‎ﷺ) said: “ Whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a restraint (Wija) for him.” ( Sunan an-Nasa’i )

If fasting is a restrainment for someone’s desires, then it is a good idea to fast as much as the person can.

With zina, indulging in our desires is an evil act that destroys a person and makes them sinful. So, we should fight to have our desires under control if we are unable to get married for some reasons.

Lower Your Gaze

Most of the acts that lead people towards zina can be avoided when we lower our gazes and shift our focus away from that which is not lawful to look at or do.

For many people, zina starts from seeing too much of the opposite gender’s awra (places that should be properly covered by clothes). For many, they are led to this sinful act through their close interaction with people they are not married too.

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying. “ Allah fixed the very portion of adultery which a man will indulge in. There would be no escape from it. The adultery of the eye is the lustful look and the adultery of the ears is listening to voluptuous (song or talk) and the adultery of the tongue is licentious speech and the adultery of the hand is the lustful grip (embrace) and the adultery of the feet is to walk (to the place) where he intends to commit adultery and the heart yearns and desires which he may or may not put into effect. ” ( Sahih Muslim )

All these things that the Hadith has mentioned brings us closer to committing zina, and the best way to strive to avoid them is to stay away from actions that can lead to them.

Remember your sense of modesty when interacting with men/women at work, in commute, in school, or even on the internet.

If you are married, remember that only your spouse is lawful for you to engage with sexual relationships with. So, hold on to them and build a marriage that is loving for you both to derive pleasure from each other without getting tempted by unlawful relationships.

Zina is a sinful act that has a negative impact on our Iman, our families, and the society at large. And every Muslim who fears his/her Lord should distance themselves from this sin, with the help of Allah (ta’ala).

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Stop Punishing Yourself

Stop Punishing Yourself

Don’t beat yourself up for having unhealthy habits. Guilt and shame are poor motivators. Instead, congratulate yourself for recognizing the need to change and wanting to improve.

Salaam brother, It is a good question that you have asked as all of us are inclined to sin to a lesser or greater degree but true, honest repentance is the best way.

We know that we are not to disclose our own wrong doings and those of others. A general principle in Islamic law is that it is sinful to reveal one’s past sins. One must keep them concealed, as sincere repentance (which includes not repeating them) wipes them out and so it is as if the person never committed them.

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:

I heard the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam) saying:

“All of my ummah will be excused, except for the mujaahireen (those who make their sins known). And verily it is a kind of mujaaharah (exposing one’s sins) that a man does something (sinful) at night, and then in the morning, when Allaah has screened his sin for him, he says, ‘Hey So and-So! I did such-and- such last night…’ And the night passed with His Lord screening him, and he wakes up casting aside the screen of Allaah from himself.”

If we see or hear about someone else committing a sin, we should always try to ignore it. Instead of spreading it, we should hide it and keep it a secret. It is reported that the Prophet Mu’hammad sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam has said:

Whosoever covers (the sins of) a Muslim, Allah covers (his sins) on the Day of Judgment. (Reported by Bukhari)

If we find it too difficult to keep it secret, the most we are allowed to do is discuss the issue with the person, in private, and try to encourage them to stop committing the sin(s).

The only exception to this is if we find out that someone has committed an actual crime that has left someone injured (emotionally, physically and including sexual abuse) or killed, or in which something was stolen or someone was denied something to which they were entitled to. In these cases, we MUST make the information public so that the person is brought to justice.

The believers, men and women, are Auliya’ (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin Al-Ma’ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do), and they forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden). (Quran, 71:9)

Minor sins (saghaa’ir) are expiated for by doing acts of worship and by avoiding major sins (kabaa’ir), because of the following evidence (daleel):

Allaah SWT has said:

If you avoid the great sins which you are forbidden to do, We shall expiate from you your (small) sins, and admit you to a Noble Entrance (i.e. Paradise) (Quran, 4:31)

This in no way implicates that one should feel confident about doing minor sins. In the repentance and asking for forgiveness from Alaah SWT, it is under the condition that it is a true, earnest regret and is not repeated.

The way we live our lives, we have to try our best to keep confidentiality a priory. If we share everything with everyone, we will face consequences in this life and in the hereafter.

Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly (for forgiveness) and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean. (Quran, 2:222)

So to answer your question, if someone asks you whether you use to ever drink, you cannot answer in the affirmative. Rather, you should answer by an indirect answer, like,

Why would any Muslim drink?

Or, Alhamdulillah, Allah SWT protected me from that.

It is not something that I think is wise. Look at what Alaah SWT tells us about it.

If such an indirect answer does not come to your mind, it would be permitted (or, rather, necessary) to lie and deny this.

The reason being is because of what sin is:

It is that which Allah hates, and may punish its doer for in the Hereafter. Sins go against the very purpose of the creation of humanity, which is to know and worship Allah.

If you examine sins, all of them either entail or lead to social harms.

When people start talking about sins, they lose their gravity and people start thinking (even if only subconsciously) that it is not all that bad to sin. Oh look, my brother/sister used to do this. they tried it. I want to try too. This especially applies to younger, easily influenced people who are still trying to find their way through all that they see and hear. It can be a very confusing world for them so would you want to influence them in a bad way? We all have a responsibility here.

The Muslim also has hayaa (shame/shyness) that prevents him from exposing his sins. Hayaa is good and it does not lead except to goodness, and it is a branch of imaan (faith).

In the absence of hayaa, the Muslim will expose his own sins.

The Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam said:

If you have no shame, then do as you wish!

Being shameful about one’s sins leads one to repent honestly between himself and Alaah SWT.

Now having said all this, do not be mislead to think that Alaah SWT allows lying. And in Surah az-Zumar it is mentioned:

“Surely Allah does not guide him aright who is a liar, ungrateful.” (Quran 39:3)

It can be understood from the verses of the Qur’an that a liar calls for divine curse and invites the anger of Allah (S.w.T.).

“. and pray for the curse of Allah on the liars.”

“. the curse of Allah be on him if he is one of the liars.”

Alaah the Almighty says in Surah an-Nahl, verse 105:

“Only they forge the lie who do not believe in Allah’s communications, and these are the liars.”

Lying is best to be avoided and so try to cover your past sins with an indirect answer. When it comes to your parents, you are protecting them from worry, anguish and sadness by providing this type of answer.

Remember, even in situations where lying is permissible, it would be religiously more precautionary to use misleading words instead of outright lying.

Always Return

by Mark Ballenger

How to give up sins (for muslims)

As a Christian, there is nothing more despairing and hopeless that repetitive sin. How easy it is for doubts and confusion regarding our own salvation to begin to creep into our minds when we continue to sin over and over again. Overwhelming feelings of God’s anger and disappointment with our repeated rebellious behavior can crush us so completely we eventually do not want to come to him at all.

This dark trail of sinning, being sorry, feeling overwhelmed by guilt, and finally running from God because we are too ashamed to speak with him is Satan’s greatest hope and a Christian’s quickest ruin.

So how do we deal with repetitive sin according to the Bible? There are so many good answers here, but perhaps the most important way to deal with repetitive sin is to never give up. Our hope is only found when we truly believe that God’s faithfulness is greater than our faithlessness.

The Most Important Way to Deal With Repetitive Sin: Always Repent Every Time

There should be many differences between a genuine believer and an unbeliever, but the biggest difference must be a relentless effort to repent, repeatedly, no matter how many times it takes. Christians and non-Christians both continue to sin, but the mark of a true Christian is admitting one’s failures and turning to Jesus for redemption on a repeated base.

How to give up sins (for muslims)In Jeremiah 2 God is pointing out Israel’s sins so that they may see their wickedness and return to him, “Yet in spite of all this you say, ‘I am innocent; he is not angry with me.’ But I will pass judgment on you because you say, ‘I have not sinned’” (Jeremiah 2:34-35). It’s important to note that despite all the wicked sins they had repeatedly done throughout the Old Testament, the real reason God passed judgment on them was because they have said, “I have not sinned.”

Repetitive Sin Can Always Be Forgiven If True Repentance Is Also Present

God knows we will all sin many, many times in life. He will never condone repetitive sin or simply act like it didn’t happen, but God is not anticipating us to be perfect in our mortal bodies. What he does expect, what he does demand, is that we recognize our sin and repeatedly repent to him every time we sin. Jeremiah 3:12-13 continues:

“Return, faithless Israel,’ declares the Lord, ‘I will frown on you no longer, for I am faithful,’ declares the Lord, ‘I will not be angry forever. Only acknowledge your guilt— you have rebelled against the Lord your God, you have scattered your favors to foreign gods under every spreading tree and have not obeyed me,’ declares the Lord.”

The only unforgivable sin is the sin that you no longer want forgiveness for. The only way to prove you were never saved to begin with is to no longer want to be saved by no longer repenting of your sin. 1 John 1:10 states, “If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.”

Summary: How to Deal With Repetitive Sin

Sinlessness is not the mark of a saint on this side of eternity; repentance of sin is. Perfection is not the evidence of a true conversion, perseverance is.

Christians should be growing and gaining victory in our lives as we are being sanctified, but this process of growth will only occur when no matter how bleak it seems, you turn back to God again and again after repetitive sin.

Throughout our journeys, we will all stumble many times (James 3:2), but thankfully Jesus is there to advocate for us (1 John 2:1-2). Although we stumble, we do not have to fall, for God’s hands are more than capable of upholding us (Psalm 37:24). Repeated sin should certainly cause us to examine our faith to make sure we really do believe in Jesus Christ, but the most important thing is not the absence of sin but the presence of genuine, heartfelt repentance and dependence on the grace of Jesus Christ alone for salvation.

God says to all of us, “Return, O faithless sons; I will heal your faithlessness” (Jeremiah 3:22). So how should we deal with repetitive sin? We must rely solely on the one who repeatedly forgives because of his own faithfulness

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We all want to enter Jannah but are we sincerely striving for it? There are multiple ways to attain the pleasure of Allah SWT and enter His Jannah. Allah SWT has made it easy for us to enter His Jannah but some of us forget this due to an ‘attachment’ to this temporary worldly life!

Following are some hadiths which will show us 25 ways or good deeds to enter the Jannah. Remember, these are not the ‘only’ 25 ways and there should be ‘sincerity’ and ‘consistency’ in these acts to get Jannat-ul-Firdause (the highest level in Jannah) InshaAllah!

    Whoever meets Allah without ascribing anything to Him will enter Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Whoever believes (has Imaan) in Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him), and establishes the prayer and fasts in the month of Ramadan, it is incumbent upon Allah that He enters him in Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Whoever says: “I am pleased with Allah as my Rabb, and with Islam as my Deen, and with Muhammad (peace be upon him) as my Prophet, Jannah would be mandatory for him. (Sunan Abu Dawud)
رَضِيتُ باللهِ رَبَّاً، وَبِالْإِسْلَامِ دِيناً،
وَبِمُحَمَّدٍ صَلَى اللهُ عَلِيهِ وَسَلَّمَ نَبِيَّاً

Whoever asks Allah for Jannah three times, Jannah will say: “O Allah, enter him into Jannah.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi)
اللّهُـمَّ إِنِّـي أَسْأَلُـكَ الجَـنَّةَ

Whoever says “SubhanAllah al-Adthim wa Bihamdihi (Glorified and Exalted is Allah, The Great, and with His Praise), a date-palm tree will planted for him in Jannah. (Jami` at-Tirmidhi)
سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ وَ بِحَمْدِهِ ، سُبْحَانَ اللّهِ الْعَظِيمِ

Allah has Ninety Nine Names, one hundred minus one, and whoever believes in their meanings and acts accordingly, will enter Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)
Visit: 99 Names of Allah

Indeed, truthfulness leads to righteousness and indeed righteousness leads to Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Whoever builds a Masjid seeking by it the Pleasure of Allah, Allah will build for him a similar place in Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Whoever repeats after the Mu’adthin (the caller to prayer) from his heart (i.e., sincerely) will enter Jannah. (Sunan an-Nasa’i)

Whoever calls the Adhan for 12 years, Jannah will become mandatory for him. (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Whoever prays the two cool prayers (Asr and Fajr) will go to Paradise. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Allah will prepare for him who goes to the mosque (every) morning and in the afternoon (for the congregational prayer) an honorable place in Paradise with good hospitality for (what he has done) every morning and afternoon goings. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Any one performs the ablution perfectly and then offers 2 rak’ahs of prayers concentrating on them with his heart and face, paradise will necessarily fall to his lot. (Sunan Abu Dawud)

Whoever prays 12 Rak’ah in the day and night, a house in Jannah will be built for him. (Sunan an-Nasa’i)
2 before Fajr
4 before Zohar & 2 after Zohar
2 after Magrib
2 after Isha

Whoever takes a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him the path to Jannah. (Jami` at-Tirmidhi)

I saw a man going about in Jannah (and enjoying himself) as a reward for cutting from the middle of the road, a tree which was causing inconvenience to the Muslims. (Muslim)

Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Anyone whose soul leaves his body and he is free of three things, will enter Jannah: Arrogance, stealing from the spoils of war, and debt. (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Whoever raises two girls then I and he will enter Jannah like these two (Prophet indicated with his two fingers). (Jami` at-Tirmidhi)

Whoever visits an ailing person or a brother of his to seek the Pleasure of Allah, an announcer (angel) calls out: “May you be happy, may your walking be blessed, and may you be awarded a dignified position in Jannah”. (Jami` at-Tirmidhi)

Allah guarantees him who strives in His Cause and whose motivation for going out is nothing but Jihad in His Cause and belief in His Word, that He will admit him into Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

O people, spread the Salaam (greetings), feed the hungry, and pray while the people are asleep, you will enter Jannah in peace. (Sunan Ibn Majah)

(The performance of) Umrah is an expiation for the sins committed between it and the previous Umrah; and the reward of Hajj Mabrur (i.e., one accepted) is nothing but Jannah. (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Whosoever last words are:

LA ILAHA ILLALLAH

  • Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said: If somebody recites this invocation (given below) during the day, and if he should die then, he will be from the people of Jannah. And if he recites it in the night, and if he should die on the same day, he will be from the people of Jannah.” (Jami` at-Tirmidhi)
    اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ رَبِّي لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ خَلَقْتَنِي وَأَنَا عَبْدُكَ وَأَنَا عَلَى عَهْدِكَ وَوَعْدِكَ مَا اسْتَطَعْتُ أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا صَنَعْتُ وَأَبُوءُ إِلَيْكَ بِنِعْمَتِكَ عَلَىَّ وَأَعْتَرِفُ بِذُنُوبِي فَاغْفِرْ لِي ذُنُوبِي إِنَّهُ لاَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ إِلاَّ أَنْتَ
    Allāhumma anta rabbī lā ilāha illā anta, khalaqtanī wa ana `abduka, wa ana `alā `ahdika wa wa`dika ma-staṭa`tu. A`ūdhu bika min sharri ma ṣana`tu, wa abū’u ilayka bini`matika `alayya wa a`tarifu bidhunūbī faghfirlī dhunūbī innahu lā yaghfirudh-dhunūba illā ant
    O Allah, You are my Lord, none has the right to be worshipped except You, You created me and I am Your servant and I abide to Your covenant and promise as best I can, I take refuge in You from the evil of which I committed. I acknowledge Your favor upon me and I acknowledge my sin, so forgive me, for verily none can forgive sin except You.
  • May Allah The Almighty guide is, forgive all our sins, help us to stay firm on the right path and unite all of us with our family and friends in His Jannat-ul-Firdause. Ameen.

    How to give up sins (for muslims)

    “Say: O Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful” (Quran 39:53)

    Whether it’s watching porn, lying, backbiting or other vices, our sins accumulate daily.

    We may try to hold our tongues, lower our gaze, not disrespect our parents or avoid a myriad of sins God has ordered us to avoid, but as humans we are weak, and we can and do make mistakes.

    But while God is just and holds us responsible for our actions, the doors to His forgiveness are always open; doing Haram and seeking forgiveness in Islam is always there. No matter how awful our sin, Allah is always ready to hear and accept our repentance, provided it is sincere and results in change for the better, so never stop making dua for forgiveness.

    In the Quran, God repeatedly reminds us that He is the Forgiving and the Merciful.

    Read Quranic verses from sura Al-Furqan (Quran 25: 63-73) for a better understanding of these issue. Here is a translation of some Quranic verses and its commentary (Quran 25: 68- 70):

    “Who invoke no other deity along with Allah, nor take any life which Allah has forbidden save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse and whoso does that shall meet its penalty;

    His torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide in it in ignominy

    Unless he repents and reaffirm his believes and does righteous works.(1) For such, Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds.(2) Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate.”

    (1). This is good news for those whose life has been stained with various kinds of sin in the past but who later repent and firmly decide to amend their behavior. The present verse amounts to a proclamation of general amnesty, which for millions of sinners provided a ray of hope and prompted them to reform themselves.

    The extent to which this provision of repentance saved the Arabs who were otherwise given to many a vice is evident from a number of incidents during the life of the Prophet (Peace be upon him). Let us consider the following example, narrated by Tabari on the authority of Abu Hurayrah who said: “One night when I returned from the Prophet’s Mosque after offering Isha Prayers, I saw a woman standing outside my door. I said ‘Peace be on you’ and went into my room, closed the door, and began to offer nafl (supererogatory) Prayers. After some time, she knocked at the door. I opened the door and asked her what she wanted. ‘I have come to ask you a question. I committed adultery and became pregnant. Then a baby was born and I killed him. Now I have come to ask you if there is any chance that my sin be forgiven?’ I said: ‘Absolutely not’. At this she went away grief-stricken, exclaiming: ‘Alas, this piece of beauty was created for the Hell-fire.’

    “The next day, after the Fajr prayers, I narrated the whole incident to the Prophet (peace be on him). He said: ‘How wrong an answer you gave, O Abu Hurayrah! Have you not read those verses in the Quran: “Those who invoke no other deity along with Allah nor take the life which Allah has forbidden – save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse – and whoso does that shall meet its penalty, his torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection and he shall abide in it in ignominy – unless he who repents and believes and does righteous works. For such Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds. Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate. Whosoever repents and does good, he returns to Allah in the manner he should” (Al-Furqan 25:68-70). Upon hearing this answer from the Prophet (Peace be on him), I went out and searched for the woman. I met her after Isha Prayers and told her what the Prophet (peace be on him) had said. She prostrated herself and said, ‘Thanks be to God, Who has opened the door of forgiveness for me.’ Then she repented and freed a female slave and also the son of that slave.” (See Tabari, ‘Tafsir’, comments on Surah al-Furqan 25:68-70 Ed.)

    (2). Doing Haram and seeking forgiveness in Islam, this has two meanings. One, that when a person repents and gives up his evil actions and begins to perform vitreous deed, in this new phase of life, of Faith and righteous conduct, his good deeds will replace the evil deeds of his past. Second, that as a result of his repentance, not only are the evil deeds which he committed during this period of disbelief and sinful living forgiven, but each person will be awarded for having given up a life of disbelief and transgression and for replacing it with obedience and Faith. Moreover, for as many times as such people feel ashamed of their past evil deeds, they will be rewarded that same number of times for having asked for forgiveness from God. Feeling ashamed of one’s sins and asking for forgiveness is, in itself, a good deed. In this manner, all of one’s evil deeds will eventually be replaced by good deeds and one will not only be saved from punishment, but will also be amply rewarded.

    Commentary from Towards Understanding the Quran with some abbreviation

    Answered by Shaykh Jamir Meah

    Question

    I am struggling to leave masturbation. I want to repent, I know it’s a grave sin but I can’t. Do you have any advice for me?

    Answer

    I pray you’re well insha’Allah.
    Dear brother, do not despair of Allah’s Mercy. Allah Most High loves to forgive, even when the same sin is repeated over and over again.

    The Prophet ﷺ said, “A person committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned. Forgive me.’ His Lord said, ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’ Then as much time passed as Allah willed, then he committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned, forgive me.’ His Lord said: ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’ Then as much time passed as Allah willed, then he committed a sin and said, ‘My Lord, I have sinned, forgive me.’ His Lord said, ‘Is My slave acknowledging that he has a Lord Who forgives sins and punishes for them? I have forgiven My slave.’” [Muslim]

    Therefore, even if a person sins repeatedly, repenting each time, he will be forgiven. However, this is on the condition that he repents sincerely, regrets his wrongdoing, and resolves that he will not return to the sin. If he falls into sin again, then he does the same.

    Addiction

    Masturbation is an addiction, and like all addictions, one needs to work hard to free themselves of it. While it may offer pleasure in the very short term, in the long run, it will bring ill health, physically and psychologically, and in matters of the spirit. It may also affect your marital life once you do marry. Don’t let that happen.

    I pray Allah gives you the strength and resolve to overcome this. We will keep you in our prayers insha’Allah.

    Warmest salams,
    [Shaykh] Jamir Meah

    Shaykh Jamir Meah grew up in Hampstead, London. In 2007, he traveled to Tarim, Yemen, where he spent nine years studying the Islamic sciences on a one-to-one basis under the foremost scholars of the Ribaat, Tarim, with a main specialization and focus on Shafi’i fiqh. In early 2016, he moved to Amman, Jordan, where he continues advanced studies in a range of Islamic sciences, as well as teaching. Jamir is a qualified homeopath.

    How to give up sins (for muslims)

    Dua for Forgiveness:

    Here you will learn about the Dua for forgiveness of sins from Allah Almighty.

    The Dua is an Arabic word, which means invocation, prayer or supplication. In the Islam, Dua is an act of calling out to Allah Almighty or it is a conversation with The Creator of the entire world.

    O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. [hadith Qudsi]

    Dua for Forgiveness (Maafi ki Dua):

    Allahumma-ghfir li dhanbi kullahu, diqqahu wa jillahu, wa awwalahu wa akhirahu, wa ‘ala niyatahu wa sirrahu

    O Allah! Forgive me all my sins, great and small, the first and the last, those that are apparent and those that are hidden. [Muslim 1:350]

    Dua for Forgiveness in Quran:

    Rabbana innanā amanna, faghfir lana, dhunoobana wa-qinna ‘adhaaban-naar

    Our Lord! we have indeed believed: forgive us, then, our sins, and save us from the agony of the Fire. [surah Ali’ Imran; 3:16]

    Seek Forgiveness from Allah for Major Sins:

    Allah se Gunahon ki Maafi ki dua..

    Astaghfirullaa-hal-ladhee laa ilaha illaa huwal-ḥayyul-qayyoomu wa atoobu ilayh

    I seek Allah’s forgiveness, besides Whom, none has the right to be worshiped except He, The Ever Living, The Self-Subsisting and Supporter of all, and I turn to Him in repentance.

    The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Whoever says,

    ‘I seek Allah’s forgiveness, besides Whom, none has the right to be worshiped except He, The Ever Living, The Self-Subsisting and Supporter of all, and I turn to Him in repentance.’ …Allah would forgive him even if he was one who fled during the advance of an army”.

    How to give up sins (for muslims)

    Dua is not an obligatory prayer for the Muslims in Islam. But there are many significance of making Dua to Allah Almighty.

    Dua before sleeping is very necessary for the Muslims. As all Muslims want forgiveness for all their sins, Dua helps you in seeking forgiveness from the Almighty Allah.

    Therefore, make a habit to recite dua for forgiveness from Allah Almighty before going to bed.

    Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 12/05/2010 – 11:26

    Dear Brother / Sister,

    Only the wronged person may forgive the one who wronged him/her. Therefore, one must find a way to make himself forgiven by the one who he wronged. Otherwise, the problem will be solved in the hereafter, which will turn into a grave issue. If the person that we wronged has passed away, we must find his heirs and pay our debt.
    If one does not please the person he wronged here in this world, he will be interrogated in the other world and the wronged one will get his right from him.

    However, if the wrong-doer regrets later on, repents sincerely, lives like a person that pleases Allah, but cannot find the person he wronged, it is expected from the mercy of Allah to ask the wronged one to forgive the other, in the other world, on condition that Allah bestows blessings on the wronged one. In return, the wronged one will forgive him as long as the repenter is sincere in his repentance.
    However, if the wrongdoer wants to pay for his wrong doings to those he hurt, but cannot find them, then he is recommended to do good things on their behalf, give alms and pray for them.
    If we wronged someone who is hard to please, we must find a way to pay his share directly or via a deputy. If that person does not know that we wronged him and if it is not possible to express it openly, then we need to leave the money onto his desk or home or through another means, and then tell him about the situation with a note. There is no need to mention the name directly.

    Man is an honorable being. Wronging his moral values like his freedom, honor, chastity and dignity is a grave sin, just like an encroachment done to his life and assets. They are all grave responsibilities.

    One may have wronged another person willingly or unwillingly, knowingly or unknowingly. Or he may encroach his rights to the extent that causes the loss some of his rights. We cannot avoid being fully away from faults and sins, even if we strive to control ourselves or have strong self-determination to remain righteous.

    What must we do in this case, which may be considered natural? Does it merely suffice to say “It happened once inevitably, it will not happen again, I wish I had not done it” with an inner soul-searching? Or, should we try to compensate for our faults through correcting our wrongs and asking for forgiveness from the one we wronged by expressing our regrets ?

    Essentially, in Islam, there are two kinds of rights: the right of Allah and the right of the people. The right of Allah means the duties that every man should fulfill towards his Lord. Any failure or sin or shortcoming in this sense, requires sincere invocation, repentance and asking frogiveness from Allah. However, the right of people is different. There is only one compensation for it. That is, meeting the wronged one personally, asking for pardon and forgiveness and paying for the losses.

    Our Prophet (PBUH) states the following in a hadith : “If one has wronged his brother’s dignity or assaulted his assets unrightfully, he must have himself forgiven before the Doomsday where there is no gold or silver to pay. Otherwise, some of his good deeds (equal to the rights of that person) will be taken away from him and given to that person. If he has no good deeds, then the sins of the wronged one will be given to him. “

    Yes, also according to our Prophet’s (PBUH) advice, there is no solution in this case, other than pleasing the wronged one. In so much that, even if a person has become a martyr but has wronged someone, all of his sins are forgiven except the wrongs done to that person. Thus, the only remedy is applying to the wronged person to please him through confessing the mistake and asking for forgiveness. If there is a financial loss, you should pay for it as much as you can to please him.

    So, you will have done your best. If he responds positively, shows tolerance and understanding, then you will have gotten rid of the responsibility and thus of the torment and account in the hereafter through settling the problem in this world.
    However, if you still feel remorse, you can repent additionally. You will have relieved before Allah as it is stated in this hadith : “Regret is the repentance itself”, “ A repenter from sins is just like one who has not committed any sins at all. “
    How can a person understand and discern that his repentance has been accepted, he has been freed from the sin ?

    Let us get the answer from the Prophet (PBUH) :

    One who repents and does a good deed following a committed sin, is like a person who wears a very tight armor on himself. Following the sin, if he does a good deed, one of the rings of the armor will be released; following another good deed, another ring will be released. After the good deeds, the armor will fall off the body

    We deduce from the hadith that a person who committed sin against Allah or wronged someone, can be freed from those sins, and the buttons of the armor of the sin will be unbuttoned quickly through regretting following the sin and doing good deeds and increasing his services of the Quran and faith. So, it will not be necessary to feel remorse and feel uneasy or distress any more because he is regarded to have done his best with a pure intention and sincerity.

    Meanwhile, we should not forget this verse of the Quran : “Say: “O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”

    Bukhari,Mazalim ( Persecutions),10
    2. at-Targhib wa’t-Tarhib, 4:97.
    3. ibid ., 4:106
    4. Surah az-Zumar, 53.

    How to give up sins (for muslims)

    The history of the Muslim peoples according to the Bible, therefore, begins with the prophet Abraham and his descendants through Ishmael, his firstborn son.

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    Abraham’s first born son by Hagar the Egyptian was Ishmael. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 16:15, RSV. “And Hagar bore Abram a son; and Abram called the name of his son, whom Hagar bore, Ishmael. Abram was eighty-six years old when Hagar bore Ishmael to Abram.”

    Abraham was given a special promise that the descendants of Ishmael would start and become a great nation. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 17:20, RSV. “As for Ishmael, I have heard you; behold, I will bless him and make him fruitful and multiply him exceedingly; he shall be the father of twelve princes, and I will make him a great nation.”

    His name (Ishmael) was given by God through the angel, and stands as a perpetual reminder of God’s mercy. Ishmael means “God hears” — and understands, and will respond in times of need. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 16:7-11, RSV. “The angel of the Lord found her by a spring of water in the wilderness the spring on the way to Shur. And he said, ‘Hagar, maid of Sarai, where have you come from and where are you going?’ She said, ‘I am fleeing from my mistress Sarai.’ The angel of the Lord said to her, ‘Return to your mistress, and submit to her.’ The angel of the Lord also said to her, ‘I will so greatly multiply your descendants that they cannot be numbered for multitude.’ And the angel of the Lord said to her, ‘Behold, you are with child, and shall bear a son; you shall call his name Ishmael; because the Lord has given heed to your affliction.’”

    Again when Hagar and Ishmael were moving to Arabia the angel appeared to her. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 21:17-21, RSV. “And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of God called to Hagar from heaven, and said to her, ‘What troubles you, Hagar? Fear not; for God has heard the voice of the lad where he is. Arise, lift up the lad, and hold him fast with your hand; for I will make him a great nation.’ Then God opened her eyes, and she saw a well of water; and she went, and filled the skin with water, and gave the lad a drink. And God was with the lad, and he grew up; he lived in the wilderness, and became an expert with the bow. He lived in the wilderness of Paran; [northern Arabia] and his mother took a wife for him from the land of Egypt.”

    Although the Bible doesn’t specifically say when Islam began, let’s explore the following. The descendants of Ishmael and the other sons of Abraham through Keturah were given the eastern country and are referred to as the children or people of the east. They are the progenitors of the Arabs. Muhammad, the prophet of Islam, traces the starting of his lineage back to Ishmael through his first born son, Nebaioth. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 25:6,12-18, RSV. “But to the sons of his concubines Abraham gave gifts, and while he was still living he sent them away from his son Isaac, eastward to the east country.” “These are the descendants of Ishmael, Abraham’s son, whom Hagar the Egyptian, Sarah’s maid, bore to Abraham. These are the names of the sons of Ishmael, named in the order of their birth: Nebaioth, the first-born of Ishmael; and Kedar, Adbeel, Mibsam, Mishma, Dumah, Massa, Hadad, Tema, Jetur, Naphish, and Kedemah.

    These are the sons of Ishmael and these are their names, by their villages and by their encampments, twelve princes according to their tribes. (These are the years of the life of Ishmael, a hundred and thirty-seven years; he breathed his last and died, and was gathered to his kindred.) They dwelt from Havilah to Shur, which is opposite Egypt in the direction of Assyria; he settled over against all his people.” The areas noted here in verse 18 are located in Central and Northern Arabia.

    There is evidence of a spiritual partnership between the sons of Abraham through Isaac (the Jews) and the sons of Abraham through Ishmael (the Arabs and the prophet of Islam, Muhammad). Ishmael and Isaac together buried their father Abraham. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 25:7-10, RSV. “These are the days of the years of Abraham’s life, a hundred and seventy-five years. Abraham breathed his last and died in a good old age, an old man and full of years, and was gathered to his people. Isaac and Ishmael, his sons, buried him in the cave of Machpelah, in the field of Ephron the son of Zohar the Hittite, east of Mamre, the field which Abraham purchased from the Hittites. There Abraham was buried, with Sarah his wife.”

    Ishmaelites (the descendants of Ishmael had become traders in spices) rescue Joseph (a son of Jacob, son of Isaac). It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 37:25 & 28, RSV. “Then they sat down to eat; and looking up they saw a caravan of Ishmaelites coming from Gilead, with their camels bearing gum, balm, and myrrh, on their way to carry it down to Egypt… and they drew Joseph up and lifted him out of the pit, and sold him to the Ishmaelites for twenty shekels of silver; and they took Joseph to Egypt.”

    This rescuing of Joseph by the Ishmaelites and taking him to Egypt was part of God’s plan. It’s in the Bible, the Torah, Genesis 45:5-7, RSV. “So Joseph said to his brothers, “Come near to me, I pray you.” And they came near. And he said, “I am your brother, Joseph, whom you sold into Egypt. And now do not be distressed, or angry with yourselves, because you sold me here; for God sent me before you to preserve life. For the famine has been in the land these two years; and there are yet five years in which there will be neither plowing nor harvest. And God sent me before you to preserve for you a remnant on earth, and to keep alive for you many survivors.”

    As Muslims, we should start off with the verse ‘Inna Lillaahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Raji’oun‘ from Surah Baraqah Chapter 2 Verse 156, which translate to “We surely belong to Allah and to Him we shall return.” We can then, add on a condolence message to tag along with it:

    1. May Allah s.w.t. grant you and your family sabr (sabar) in this difficult time, and reward you with Khair both in this world and the next. Ameen.

    2. May Allah s.w.t. grant him/her Jannatul-Firdaus and forgive his/her sins. May He make his/her grave a place of comfort and light. Ameen.

    3. May Allah s.w.t. enhance your recompense and be generous in your calamity and forgive the deceased and induce you with patience and multiply for us and for you recompense through patience.

    4. It is Allah’s that takes and it is He that gives, and He prescribes a certain destiny for every matter.

    5. May Almighty Allah dwell him in Jannataul-Firdaus, the most beautiful paradise.

    6. May Allah s.w.t. in his mercy, grant him rest, may his grave be a part of Jannatul Firdaus and an abode of light. May Allah make him pass successfully in all the stages of the life after death. Ameen.

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    A few of my mates have confessed to me that they masturbate as its the only way they can stay away from entering in to haram relationships; they’re too young or not financially stable to get married and some of them are even married- what does Islam say about masturbation and what advice can you offer?

    In the name of Allah the Most Beneficent and Merciful

    Masturbation by one’s own hand or self is not permissible in Islam.

    Allah (The Exalted) says: “Those who guard their sexual organs except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors.” (23:5-7)

    The above verse is used as evidence by all four Imams of Fiqh that masturbation is prohibited.

    It is also mentioned in various Hadith as follows that Imam Ibn Kathir has wrote in volume 5 p. 458; Hasan Ibn Arifah reports: The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,

    ‘Seven persons are such that Allah will not look at them on the Day of Qiyaamat nor will He purify them nor will He include them among the learned and Allah will enter them into Jahannam. They will enter Jahannam first except for those who repent. As those who repent Allah will accept their repentance.

    1. A person who masturbates.
    2. A person who performs the act of sodomy.
    3. The person upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
    4. A perpetual drunkard.
    5. The person who hits his parents so much that they appeal for help.
    6. The person who harms his neighbours so much so that they curse him.
    7. The person who commits adultery with his neighbour’s wife.

    It is spiritually wrong as well as morally wrong due to the fact that that when one masturbates they are taking away the right of their spouse (if they are married) or the fulfilment of getting married. However, many youth then claim that masturbation is the only way they can stay away from sin. Although one has to understand that normally sexual arousement occurs when a person either sees something that makes them want to commit a sexual act or they may involve themselves in a relationship which then leads on to masturbation. In both cases a person is not allowed to put themselves in that position.

    The other problem is that their relationship with their spouse is not a fulfilling one and therefore to fulfil their sexual hunger they feel they have to masturbate. In this situation it is still not allowed and in some ways even worse as this could deprive their marriage of one of its essential ingredients.

    It is permissible for a wife to masturbate her husband and vice versa. (Radd ul Mohtar). Therefore if the husband has the urge to this then he may allow his wife to do this for him. Also, if there are other reasons why a husband feels the need to masturbate then he must identify the root cause and discuss this with his spouse.

    If a person knows for sure that if they did not masturbate then they would commit fornication, then in this situation the lesser of the two evils is to masturbate as fornication would be a worse sin. One should still repent after this.

    If a person feels the urge to masturbate on a regular basis then they should get married if they can financially afford to do so. If this is not possible then a person should fast as this according to the Hadith will quell a person’s sexual urge (due to weakness resulting from the lack of food and drink).
    Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,

    ‘O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should make it compulsory upon himself to fast because it breaks lust.’ (Bukhari & Muslim)

    God gives us clear instructions on how we can live eternally with Him.

    The truth of the matter is that we all won’t be entering into heaven.

    Heaven is not the default destination after someone dies. Despite this, an overwhelming majority of American’s believe that they will head to the eternal afterlife with God. The optimism is great, but we have to remember what Jesus said in Matthew 7:13-14. “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.”

    Hell is our default destination according to the Bible. Jesus, however, gave us the way to fix our sin problem and change that setting. Once we put our hearts towards God and ask for forgiveness, we can begin the process of becoming a true Christian.

    Being Good isn’t Enough

    There is a common assumption in society that as long as you lead a good life, you will be able to go to heaven. However the thought that “all good people enter heaven” isn’t truth from the Bible. This belief assumes that though some “bad” people need punishment, that most are generally good and entitled to heaven. It also assumes that the entrance to heaven is on the basis of merit and our actions, and not because of God’s grace. However there’s no righteous deed we can do that will earn us a place in heaven (Titus 3:5). Lastly, the thought suggests that hell is only for a few marginal people who do purely evil acts.

    Being a good person only isn’t going to get someone into heaven. When we sin, we fall short of God’s standards. Sin separates us from a relationship with God (Isaiah 59:2). God wanted to give us a way to free ourselves from our sin, so He blessed us with Jesus Christ. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16). Jesus died on the cross as the only one worthy to pay the penalty for our sins demanded by the holiness of God. But in victory over death, God raised Jesus from the grave, defeating the consequences of sin.

    Repent For Our Sins

    Only when our sins are dealt with in Christ can we enter heaven. We cannot pay our own way. Jesus said, “No one comes to the Father except through me” (John 14:6). “There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved” (Acts 4:12). Because of Jesus Christ’s sacrificial death on the cross on our behalf, God freely offers us forgiveness. You have to accept Him into your heart, though, if you want to enter into the eternal life.

    In order to be forgiven of our sins we have to recognize that we sin in the first place and then ask for forgiveness from God. Forgiveness is not automatic. The verse 1 John 1:9 states “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Christ offers to everyone the gifts of forgiveness, salvation, and eternal life. This gift cannot be worked for, earned, or achieved. It’s dependent solely on Christ’s generous sacrifice on our behalf.

    God Wants Us to Go to Heaven

    Despite heaven not being our default destination that does not mean God doesn’t want us there. He actually is hoping for us to come to Him! God would not have sent Jesus down to free us from our sins otherwise. In John 6:38, Jesus says “For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of him who sent me.” There are six other times in just John 6 where Jesus stresses that His purpose is to do the Will of God. God wants us to apologize for our sins and accept Jesus as our savior so that one day we can come home to Him.

    There is a way for us on earth to get into heaven. We have to work on being a good Christian that regularly confesses our sins, and recognize that Jesus is our only way to salvation. If we do this we can take comfort in knowing that God is cheering us on and can’t wait to have us home again.

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    Why did God need to sacrifice his only Son in order to forgive people’s sins? Couldn’t he have done it a different way?

    Questions:

    Answers:

    You are asking some really big questions here. I am answering both of these in much detail in the class on Christian Theology I started yesterday. You can join us Saturdays at 9:00 Pacific Time the next three Saturdays. www.bakersfieldchurchofchrist.com or zoom 342 225 5971 pswd 857096.

    But let me give you very brief introductory answers to your questions. These answers will be abbreviated and may not completely satisfy.

    1. To start with, the idea that the Father sent his Son to die in order that we could have salvation, redemption, justification and forgiveness of sins is not clearly logical by human ways of thinking. As I said in our class yesterday, God’s plan for redemption of humanity is a mystery. This is what we are told in the Bible. The biblical fact is that Christ died for our sins (1 Corinthians 15:3). This was both because of our sins and so that our sins could be forgiven. This “message of the cross” is a mystery and it is a stumbling block to the “wise” of the world (1 Corinthians 1:18-21). Again, this plan to redeem us through the sacrifice of Jesus is a deep mystery (Ephesians 1:7-10). His death brought redemption and unity between mankind and God. This mystery is what brings Jew and Gentile together (Eph 3:3-12), and allows us to approach God without the stain of sin.

    Having told you redemption through the death of Christ is a mystery, let me try to give some sort of biblical account of how and why God chose to save us this way. The wages of sin are death (Romans 3:23). Nothing good we do solves this problem. We were “dead in our sins” (Ephesians 2:1) with no solution, at least as far as what we could do ourselves. God chose to fulfill the Law and the Prophets through Jesus (Matthew 5:17). Jesus took the penalty that God’s justice required so that we would not have to pay the ultimate price for our rebellion and sin. Again, this is a mystery–why God chose this path, but it is what he chose. The best statement of this idea in the Bible I know is in Romans 3:20-26. Here you will see God’s pronouncement that we could not be declared right before God based on our own works. Good work does not cancel out the consequences of sin (v. 20). As humans, we understand that part. But God provided the solution, so that he could be just (hold sin to account), but also to justify (forgive) us (v. 26). He did this by substituting the death of Jesus–his sacrifice–so that we would not be held to account–so that we could be justified.

    Could God have done this another way? I hate to put it this way, but I guess you will have to ask God. This is the path to justification he chose. Is it “logical?” Not to me, but I accept it because it comes from God, our Creator, to whom we will give account.

    2. Speaking of Trinity, talk about mystery! I talked about this in my class yesterday. Perhaps you can go to my website and listen to the class and look at the notes. The trinity is a mystery. The Bible is absolutely, without any doubt, clear that God is one. There is one God. Yet, we have John 1:1. In the beginning was the Word (referring to the Son). The Word was with God, and the Word was God. How can this be? The mystery of what we sometimes call trinity (a word not in the Bible) is about relationship. God is inherently a relational being in his very nature. The mystery of trinity is about God in relationship within himself. The Bible tells us that the Son submitted to the will of the Father on the cross. “Yet, not as I will, but as you will.” (Matthew 26:39). The answer to this question, clearly, is closely tied to your first question. Did God sacrifice himself? I suppose we could put it that way, but I am confident that Jesus would not say it that way. God the Son offered his life, not to the Father, but so that we could be saved. It was the ultimate act of love, both of the Father and of the Son for us. Am I going to claim that this is logical? You can guess that I will not. It is a mystery, but it is a beautiful mystery, to which I submit myself. I cannot blame you one little bit for feeling that this concept is difficult to grasp or to accept, but it is what we learn in the Scripture–the Scripture which is inspired by God, as is clear from so much internal evidence, including the resurrection of Jesus, his miracles, and his fulfillment of prophecy. But that is another story.

    Is the “trinity” a contraction? No. It is reality. Jesus is God (John 8:58-59 and many others), but Jesus is not the Father. It is a mystery, but it is reality, not a “contraction,”